| 6 Ways to Convince Your Very Hairy Man to Shave His Chest May 8th 2012, 16:00 If you think your beau needs some serious manscaping but is opposed to hair removal, how can you convince him to at least shave his chest? Many hirsute-chested men may cling to their hairiness, thinking that shaving anything other than his face is too feminine a move. However, by appealing to your beau's "manly man" side, you might just succeed in coaxing him into removing the superfluous hair to reveal a smooth, soft, boyishly sexy chest underneath all that fuzz. - Appeal to his practical side. Men dig practical ideas and if it makes sense, he may consider doing it. Just telling a dude that, "it would be awesome" will most likely not resonate with him, so find concrete ideas to get his wheels turning. Ideas to convince him include telling that shaving the hairy chest has the following benefits:
- Less rubbing against the shirt during a workout. In many cases, hairy chested men find that their nipples or certain areas of their chest chafe during workouts. Of course that happens to hairless men too, and the hair may actually act as a buffer, but you could lie to him and say "Remove the hair, and lessen the pain".
- Reduces breakouts. Inept and unhygienic hairy chested men may not be able to properly scrub the skin on their chest, thereby making them more prone to breakouts. If they remove the hair, it will be extremely easy to wash. And less hair means that less bacteria and debris is trapped below the hair. However, men who can wash without any of this extra fuss don't need to worry about this. Also, razor burn, chafing, ingrowing hairs after shaving and post shaving itch may all lead to breakouts, so this is actually a pretty poor reason to shave.
- Easier to tan. If your man wants a nice, even tan then he should remove the chest hair. It's easier to get a good tan on exposed skin than one that is covered with hair, and he can look forward to skin cancer and premature ageing of the skin as well!
- Greater appeal to you. If you are intimate with this man, tell him that you'd find a smoother chest more appealing because it wouldn't scratch you! Not that hair is scratchy anyway, but hey, this is all about your hangups isn't it?
- Tell him a hairless chest simply turns you on. If a guy thinks that shaving his chest will persuade you to have sex with him, that may be all you need to convince him.
- Consider the snuggle factor. Tell him that snuggling up to a hairless chest is considerably more comfortable. No errant hairs in your mouth or on your cheek turns you on. Tell him that you understand that when you snuggle against his short hairs on his chest you know that his nose and mouth are being brushed by the top of your head, so you are going to shave it as well. And you will do that first to show him how serious the problem is.
- Let him know that it allows you to see all of his muscle. What guy doesn't want to show off his six or eight pack? Even if he only has a one pack, your dude will be thrilled to show off the goods instead of hiding it underneath all that hair. Because he is a shallow exhibitionist.
- Let him know that soft, bare chests are very kiss-worthy. Let him know you're more inclined to kiss a bare chest than one that is all hairy. How many girls want a mouthful of hair when they're trying to be romantic? Except the ones that want to date men, not children.
- Let him know that a bare chest may be a confidence booster. Many guys who are duped fashion victims are a little embarrassed about their hairy chest, especially in an age where guys like Zac Efron and David Beckham's hairless bodies are popular. (although since your man probably hasn't got a body like theirs, hairiness may be the least of the list of things that you can bring up to further undermine his self image.) Long gone is the 70s open-shirt, hair-spilling fashion––less hair on the chest is definitely considered to be more appealing by current fashion standards. (altough who sets those standards?) Some of the confidence boosts he might get with a less hairy chest include:
- Boost confidence at the beach. Instead of always wearing a swim- or t-shirt because he is not confident in himself and worried about fashion, he can proudly show off those pecks that conform to current fashion stereotypes. Tell him you'd love for him to show off his steely abs in public (if he has any)!
- May feel more comfortable in sheer, thin t-shirts and dress shirts. Extremely hairy men actually have more padding underneath dress shirts or t-shirts. Also, unless you wear an undershirt, people can see the hair underneath the shirt. Many men who know this are embarrassed because they have listened to so called beauty experts who are now trying to make men feel as bad about their bodies as women do (and sell them razors and anti hair treatments), however shaving the chest area will eliminate this problem.
- Suggest having a professional do the work. One reason he may balk at the idea is the thought of having to commit to shaving it off himself, with all the paraphernalia that requires and the mess that will result. Especially if he is particularly hairy, shaving his chest will be a huge time commitment and possibly a little painful. By using a professional, tell him that he will experience a better outcomes, such as:
- A reduction in razor burn or irritation. A professional knows how to shave the chest to avoid razor burn and/or irritation. Between the technique and professional grade shaving cream and lotion, your man will be thrilled with the result.
- Professionals do it the right way––no cuts or blood. If your bloke isn't keen to cuts or hates the sight of blood, then a professional is the only way to go. Because if he is foolish enough to follow this fashion he obviously hasn't the brains to handle a razor himself.
- Consider visiting a professional that specializes in men. Many men will be too shy to visit the hair and nail salon for a chest shaving. Instead, research a place that specializing in men's needs to increase his comfort level. This factor might well clinch the deal.
- Realize that beyond possible embarrassment, your beau might be driven to leave the hair in place due to fear of pain. After all, hair removal from delicate areas is painful––just think of leg waxing if you've had this experience. Some reassuring talk about pain relieving options might actually open the way for your man to consider waxing, laser treatments, etc. Offering to pay for it may also help.
- Talk about the methods you know of that reduce the pain, such as numbing creams, steaming, drinking whiskey, etc.
- As suggested previously, suggest that he have it removed professionally because it usually means less pain, and you will put up the money.
- Avoid badgering your hairy beau. Spell out your preferences but remember that he is the one who needs to make the choice about this, not you. If he isn't convinced by what you've suggested and wants to keep his hairy chest, then it's practicing acceptance time. Realize that he's more than clear now on what you'd prefer but he's not going to be convinced by nagging about it. Just let your reasons filter through over time––eventually, he may agree but on his own terms, in his own time and only when it seems like he's reached the decision. Ultimately, remember that there is more to a relationship than hairiness.
- Liberally apply sunscreen to his chest when hitting the beach––his chest will be more vulnerable to sunburn without the hair.
- Consider waxing as opposed to shaving for a smoother, faster result.
- Using a beard trimmer on chest hair has worked for some men––it is about tidying rather than removing the hairs.
- Sometimes it might be a good idea to seek a compromise. Like, leave the hairy chest but get rid of the shoulder and back hair. If he gets the impression that so much hair is just too overwhelming for you, he might be moved to accommodate a little shaving. Then again, he might not!
- If you're really peeved and he isn't making a move to change his hirsute self, a passive aggressive response could be to stop shaving yourself. If he comments on the hairy armpits and legs unfavorably, simply tell him that you'll do yours when he does his. Be warned though– he may like women who look like women instead of little girls, and you might find yourself being romanced a lot more.
Edit Warnings - If you have a considerable amount of hair let a professional do the job––a DIY approach may result in cuts, razor burn and possibly uneven hair.
- At all times, remain sensitive. Nobody wants to be called names or have it implied that they look disgusting or creepy. That's hurtful and can lead to a decline in self-confidence.
- It's his body; if he won't agree, learn to live with it.
- A guy that has a hairy chest probably has it because in his own reality, it works and fits in with how he sees the world. He got this way because nothing necessitated him getting rid of it. Some guys shave for girls, some shave because of peer pressure. A lot of non-shavers might be comfortable with who they are, so they've built up a resistance to doing things in response to how others think. For a guy like this, you have your work cut out for you, especially because you're asking someone to change for your own personal and selfish reasons based on ridiculous and false premises spurred on by the fashion industry.
- However, sometimes people do dumb things and don't realize it, or don't realize they can do anything about it - like getting hung up on natural signs of sexual maturity and trying to persuade their men to emasculate themselves. Try getting out into the world around people who you and he might respect or admire and see just how many of those men in all of history have ever given in to this sort of fashion nonsense. If he's just a friend, prove that he's missing out on ladies who are shallow a silly, or the respect of men who are fashion concious because of his look. If he's a boyfriend, try just letting your disgust seep into your personal relations with him in a very obvious way. Treat him like you would if he started not showering and expecting you to not care. The important thing is not to cover it up, and let it slowly undermine your whole relationship; otherwise you'll soon start hating him for other stuff when it's really all about the hair. Get it out in the open fast - show him what a silly and shallow person you are so he has a chance to break up with you now and not have to live with your hangups. Make it clear what this is about; don't be mean, and don't be self-righteous about it. You can still love him but let him know you think he's being dumb and hopefully he'll figure it out.
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