| How to Touch a Guy Dec 7th 2012, 14:00 Did you know that as a woman you have great ability to make a guy feel good in general, and good about you, just by touching him? There is a kind of electro-chemical action that takes place at the moment of a person's touch. Thus, a gal's knowledge of how to touch a guy in just the right way becomes one of your most important subtle skills in the dating game. - Converse first. When meeting a guy for the first time, concentrate on being a good conversationalist before touching him. Listen to him closely and avoid interrupting him. Obviously, given that conversation is a shared pursuit, expect him to listen and respond to you as well; aim for harmony in this conversational interplay, then consider the power of touch.
- Acknowledge that all guys are different. Each individual guy will have his own preferences for the intensity and type of touch and you'll have to gauge this through careful pacing and good observation of his reactions. However, some forms of touch are commonly appreciated by most males, such as a gentle arm touch or hold and a neck stroke. The remaining steps suggest the types of touch most likely to gain his attention for all the right reasons.
- Any form of touch must be respectful––never persist in touching a person who doesn't like it. Try it once to see and gauge things from the first reaction.
- Begin by touching him lightly on the elbow every once in a while. Do this very casually, as you talk further with him. Make it as natural as possible, without interrupting the flow of conversation.
- Try to touch his elbow or hand when having a conversation with him. He will get the idea that you have broken the touch barrier. In time, he will do the same for you (some guys might respond in kind faster than others––be patient).
- A gentle squeeze on the arm, hand or back can communicate warmth and consideration for the guy.
- Take it slowly. It is very important to avoid overdoing the touch routine with someone you've just met. Over a period of days or even weeks, touching him will become more natural, both to him and to you. Once you have established a friendship with a boy, then you can move into higher levels of touching, as outlined next.
- Touch a guy at the back of the neck or the ear for a very powerful effect.
- Touch his shoulder or neck and tell him that his muscles are tight where you are touching him. Depending on how game you're feeling, you might ask if it's okay to massage there, or perhaps just do it anyway.
- Touch a guy on the chest, the side by his ribcage to really generate a vibe.
- Rub up against him. As you are standing, make your thighs lightly touch him to send an impulse or rub your butt up against him as you go by saying "Excuse me". This last point works well when in a crowded room.
- Come up behind him, once you get to know him well, and put your arms around his waist and press your body into his.
- Put your arm around his waist as you walk together side-by-side. This is another way of touching.
- Hug him, for the full front-to-front, total-body touch.
- Hold his hand. If you are at the movies, drape your arm on his side of the arm rest and he will probably get the idea.
- "Trip" and fall into him. He will probably catch you, but be aware that this is more than a gentle touch, and might be unwelcome. If you do plan on doing this one, stage it so that it comes across as completely innocent and be sure he'll be able to catch you!
- Your touches should be firm enough that he feels it but light enough that it feels like a brushing more than a hard touch. This will really start driving him nuts!
- If you shake his hand, wrap your other hand around his. Linger for just a couple of seconds longer than you normally would while you gaze in his eyes. This should probably not be done the first time you meet someone.
- During conversation, just as a natural part of your gestures, touch his knee, his forearm or hand for emphasis for a second or two.
- Ask him if he could give you a little massage where it "hurts". He'll be very happy to oblige with this opportunity to touch you.
- Touch can be used as a way to emphasize a point you're making, such as squeezing his hand when apologizing for spilling your nachos over him.
Edit Warnings - When you first meet a guy, don't give long, sliding touches since it will be considered coming on too strong causing a negative reaction on his part.
- Don't be too dominant or aggressive when you shake his hand.
- Unless you're already well known as a touchy-feely person with everyone, don't touch anyone who has a girlfriend!
- Touch can feel like neediness if you overdo it and may seem as if you're inveigling your way into his affections.
- Avoid grabbing him if he's talking to someone else––this isn't time for a tug-of-war.
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